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What are some tips for parents who want to take an active role in their teen’s recovery from addictive disease?
September 28, 2009
Part 4 of facing your teen’s addiction Here are some tips: Start a conversation by asking open-ended questions. Open-ended questions… cannot be answered “yes” or “no” allow your child to give spontaneous and honest answers—she should tell her story in her own words usually begin with: “Tell me about…” “Describe…” “To what extent…” “What was that like?” “Help me understand…” Affirm his worth, courage and challenges....
September 28, 2009
Part 4 of facing your teen’s addiction Here are some tips: Start a conversation by asking open-ended questions. Open-ended questions… cannot be answered “yes” or “no” allow your child to give spontaneous and honest answers—she should tell her story in her own words usually begin with: “Tell me about…” “Describe…” “To what extent…” “What was that like?” “Help me understand…” Affirm his worth, courage and challenges....
What are the emotional challenges that parents will face when their teen is recovering from an addictive disease?
September 26, 2009
Part 3 of facing your teen’s addiction Substance abuse hinders emotional development in teens. This is due to the psychoactive effects of drugs on the emotional center (limbic system) in the brain. All drugs of abuse change how this part of the brain functions. Teens learn that using drugs and alcohol will quickly change their mood. When a teen is bored, smoking marijuana makes the time pass. When they feel depressed, alcohol or cocaine works wonders—for a while. We become emotionally...
September 26, 2009
Part 3 of facing your teen’s addiction Substance abuse hinders emotional development in teens. This is due to the psychoactive effects of drugs on the emotional center (limbic system) in the brain. All drugs of abuse change how this part of the brain functions. Teens learn that using drugs and alcohol will quickly change their mood. When a teen is bored, smoking marijuana makes the time pass. When they feel depressed, alcohol or cocaine works wonders—for a while. We become emotionally...
What are the social challenges that parents will face when their teen is recovering from an addictive disease?
September 25, 2009
Part 2 of facing your teen’s addiction One of the indications of addiction is the extent to which one’s life becomes organized around using drugs or alcohol. For addicted teens, there is almost always a well-defined sub-culture of friends, associates, parties, and rituals that becomes the center of their social life. Healthy activities that used to capture their imagination such as sports and academics soon become secondary to the “party” culture.” Helping teens find a new, drug-free...
September 25, 2009
Part 2 of facing your teen’s addiction One of the indications of addiction is the extent to which one’s life becomes organized around using drugs or alcohol. For addicted teens, there is almost always a well-defined sub-culture of friends, associates, parties, and rituals that becomes the center of their social life. Healthy activities that used to capture their imagination such as sports and academics soon become secondary to the “party” culture.” Helping teens find a new, drug-free...
How Parents can take an active role in their teen’s recovery from addictive disease?
September 24, 2009
Part 1 of facing your teen’s addiction During illness, good parents instinctively attend to their children’s needs and provide an ample supply of love and comfort. As the child recovers, family life quickly returns to normal. Unfortunately, it’s not the same when a teen becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol. Drug and alcohol dependence are chronic, debilitating disorders where recovery is possible, but a cure is not. Some addicted teens require prolonged treatment or multiple stints in treatment...
September 24, 2009
Part 1 of facing your teen’s addiction During illness, good parents instinctively attend to their children’s needs and provide an ample supply of love and comfort. As the child recovers, family life quickly returns to normal. Unfortunately, it’s not the same when a teen becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol. Drug and alcohol dependence are chronic, debilitating disorders where recovery is possible, but a cure is not. Some addicted teens require prolonged treatment or multiple stints in treatment...
How do I keep my child from being deceitful?
September 23, 2009
Character involves many things from being a person of faith, to someone who works hard, who abides by their commitments and responsibilities, who has come into their own sense of themselves and their worth. However, the true character of a person is who they are when no one else is watching. It is in the little things that true character manifests itself. For instance, if a salesperson gives you too much change, do you go back to the store and return the correct amount, or rationalize:...
September 23, 2009
Character involves many things from being a person of faith, to someone who works hard, who abides by their commitments and responsibilities, who has come into their own sense of themselves and their worth. However, the true character of a person is who they are when no one else is watching. It is in the little things that true character manifests itself. For instance, if a salesperson gives you too much change, do you go back to the store and return the correct amount, or rationalize:...
The first five years of a child’s life
September 22, 2009
By Glenda Anderson The first five years are critical in a child’s overall development. Within this time frame, a child can embrace one of two realities: he/she grows up experiencing love and security and trust in his parents or he/she is not held and nurtured... he/she is placed in the arms of strangers who are not connected to him/her... his/her family is torn apart by rancor, insecurity, turmoil, abuse, alcoholism, divorce... he/she lives with step-parents in whom he/she feels no bond...
September 22, 2009
By Glenda Anderson The first five years are critical in a child’s overall development. Within this time frame, a child can embrace one of two realities: he/she grows up experiencing love and security and trust in his parents or he/she is not held and nurtured... he/she is placed in the arms of strangers who are not connected to him/her... his/her family is torn apart by rancor, insecurity, turmoil, abuse, alcoholism, divorce... he/she lives with step-parents in whom he/she feels no bond...
Does my child have ADHD and are there different types?
September 21, 2009
ADHD is the most common neurobiological disorder in children. Just why the prevalence of ADHD has increased in the last 30 years is unclear. Certainly the world in which children live today is faster paced with countless distractions and stimulations that did not exist 30 years ago. I agree that ADHD is often misdiagnosed, but that does not mean that it isn't real--it is, and children who have ADHD suffer tremendously. Without proper diagnosis and treatment, children with ADHD are at increased risk...
September 21, 2009
ADHD is the most common neurobiological disorder in children. Just why the prevalence of ADHD has increased in the last 30 years is unclear. Certainly the world in which children live today is faster paced with countless distractions and stimulations that did not exist 30 years ago. I agree that ADHD is often misdiagnosed, but that does not mean that it isn't real--it is, and children who have ADHD suffer tremendously. Without proper diagnosis and treatment, children with ADHD are at increased risk...
Will my child turn out okay?
September 18, 2009
By Glenda Anderson In Matthew 13, Jesus gives us the parable of the sower. The sower sows many seeds, many of which never reach their designed growth. Only a few good seeds thrive. The question arises: what can we do to better our chances of having a good seed grow instead of a bad seed? Ask any gardener...he knows. A fruitful garden takes time and patience. The ground needs to be carefully tilled and prepared; the right nutrients must be added to enhance each seed's growth. The rocks...
September 18, 2009
By Glenda Anderson In Matthew 13, Jesus gives us the parable of the sower. The sower sows many seeds, many of which never reach their designed growth. Only a few good seeds thrive. The question arises: what can we do to better our chances of having a good seed grow instead of a bad seed? Ask any gardener...he knows. A fruitful garden takes time and patience. The ground needs to be carefully tilled and prepared; the right nutrients must be added to enhance each seed's growth. The rocks...
When parental correction is necessary
September 17, 2009
By Paul Anderson The lady had briskly left her seat about midway in the center section of the church pews and had taken her nine year old son by the hand and removed him from his seat on the front row. At first I thought her action meant on the spot punishment for the boy or at best his longest reprieve would be until she got him out the front door of the church. My assumption concerning the woman's intentions proved to be one hundred percent wrong. Her anger was not directed toward the boy she was now leading...
September 17, 2009
By Paul Anderson The lady had briskly left her seat about midway in the center section of the church pews and had taken her nine year old son by the hand and removed him from his seat on the front row. At first I thought her action meant on the spot punishment for the boy or at best his longest reprieve would be until she got him out the front door of the church. My assumption concerning the woman's intentions proved to be one hundred percent wrong. Her anger was not directed toward the boy she was now leading...
Why guys get addicted to Porn
September 16, 2009
Guys get addicted to pornography because their brains cannot distinguish between pornography and the real thing. Men who view porn can achieve full arousal within seconds. Because of dopamine reward, sexual images and memories are given priority by the brain because, like hunger and thirst, our sex drive is key to our survival. Like important files on a computer's hard drive, pornographic images and associated emotions are easily provoked, accessed and opened. For teens in particular,...
September 16, 2009
Guys get addicted to pornography because their brains cannot distinguish between pornography and the real thing. Men who view porn can achieve full arousal within seconds. Because of dopamine reward, sexual images and memories are given priority by the brain because, like hunger and thirst, our sex drive is key to our survival. Like important files on a computer's hard drive, pornographic images and associated emotions are easily provoked, accessed and opened. For teens in particular,...
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